What is shame? It’s a negative emotion that most people seem to feel after doing something “shameful”, but what is at the root of that? Why do people feel bad after doing things -- why is this seen as a good thing rather than a weird type of neurosis?
Shame is the result of seeing yourself as a fundamentally good person who is making the world a “better place” who has slipped into a negative action and thus temporarily become a bad person. Of course, everybody who feels shame has different conceptions of what bad people and good people are, and they view good people as being fundamentally better than bad people. Hidden in shame is a sense of moral superiority to others, an emotional judgment and form of insecurity that is vain and stupid.
Shame is not, as those who praise it, a good thing. It is something that somebody who is too weak to follow their internal compass feels. It is glamorized by the weak and the failures who don’t have what it takes to be successful in life and thus turn their negative emotions into a sort of God that they are honoring through failure.
Shame is a feminine emotion, not suited for generative people. It has its roots in manipulation by women who cannot control those stronger than them via honest methods and who must then turn to psychological tricks to achieve control.
What is the proper response to doing something that makes you feel shame? It’s not to stew in your feelings and trick yourself into thinking that your actions are then absolved because of an internal mental struggle but rather to realize what caused you to do the thing you wish you hadn’t done in the first place and ensure that you don’t do it again, not because of feeling bad or social pressure but because you are the protagonist in your own life and things that you know are improper are things that you should strive not to do because they do not benefit you.
Remorse is just like shame, a self-destructive and mentally ill impulse that distracts from productivity and proper behavior. Everybody makes mistakes and does things they know they shouldn’t have, but feeling regret about those things is indulgent and childlike. The past is the past, whatever happened has happened, and to dwell on it outside of the purpose of logical analysis is stupid and a waste of time that could be spent in more beneficial ways.
People who are doing things are too busy to care about making sure others feel bad about their misbehaviors. The people that push shame or remorse as virtues rather than a form of mental illness are pathetic busybodies that are unable to transcend in any manner and thus must try to drag everybody around them down to their level of incontinence. It is a feminine urge to tear others down for no purpose other than to feel good about yourself, and this urge is at the core of both remorse and shame.
Don’t feel remorse or shame, it’s a complete waste of time. Learn from your mistakes and misdeeds and improve yourself without slipping into the trap of emotionally investing into things you can’t change. It doesn’t matter if you feel bad, so why feel bad at all? You can’t afford to get caught up in things that don’t matter, and your emotions don’t matter. Emotions are useful for those who don’t have critical thinking skills, but a disability for those who do.
Do you need the negative feelings of remorse and shame to prevent you from doing stupid or harmful things? If so, you are weak and driven by emotional impulses rather than any real willpower or self-knowledge. If remorse and shame can really convince you to do or not do anything, then you don’t really have morals or honor you simply wish to not feel bad, which means that anybody who can hijack the way you feel can get you to do anything they want.
After your brain is fully developed, unless you are a moron who cannot figure out how to think is no reason to idolize negative or positive emotions or see them as anything other than pests. To be controlled by how you feel rather than what you know is the mark of a slave who will never become a master of their environment. It is immature and inefficient and will not lead to any form of greatness or competence.
The reason that shame and remorse have both been pushed increasingly hard in recent times is that society has been functioning in an improper and self-destructive way that has been bearing fruit, and that fruit needs to be distracted from. Rather than admitting all the wrongdoing that is going on, those who are willfully doing wrong are generating negative emotional impulses in those that they are doing wrong to so they never wake up and see what is really going on. It is a top-down push on otherwise capable people to further distract and enslave them. While you are busy crying and “working through” improper things that you have done, others who are not burdened with this neuroticism are free to run around and take even further advantage of your inability to act in a proactive manner.
The mind is trained to behave in the way you want it to behave, and the more you dwell on your emotions, the more emotional you will become. The way you feel is not static or set in stone, so to focus on things that provide you no benefit (remorse and shame) causes you to be increasingly neurotic and more likely to focus on remorse and shame in the future.
Shame and remorse are psychological weapons that have been used against able-bodied individuals for so long that they are not recognized as such. They are a form of control that have been internalized and canonized as healthy and proper when they are really unhealthy and improper. Once you are an adult, feeling bad or feeling good should not be what drives you to do or not do anything. Stop feeling shame and remorse and instead just do things that you know are proper to do, because what is proper to do is beneficial to both you and those around you who are also acting properly.